So, it’s been a while. Yes, it has been a very long while and just like a jerk I’ve kept you guys hanging…… HOWEVER I did make sure to come back with a good story.
First off, happy first spring weekend!! Yesterday (for me) was such a delightful day- the weather was lovely, work was low-key with minimal to no stress, and I even woke up early refreshed. It was a good day….for me.
Hopefully this will be the very last post to ever go out involving this dude. Obviously I speak of The Musician, whose name is actually Brian. This situation has caused some serious patience and for a while this event caused a momentary internal battle between what was the right thing and the wrong thing. As you all know, by now, Brian has owed me money for quite some time (May/June 2012) and I’ve been ridiculously nice about it- not demanding full payment, offering that he pay me over time in smaller amounts. My only real request: Pay in full before the end of the year (2013).
Because I want the full, honest story to speak for itself, I’ve included the emails and later text messages. I will of course provide other details, such as non-emailed or texted happenings but for the most part I want everyone to read this for how it all unfolded and resulted in Friday’s events….
Letter mailed Monday, July 29, 2013
Brian:Enclosed are your keys. I would ask that you please do the same and return the keys to my apartment as well. Along with them, please include the $600 you owe me for Mingus’s vet bill. It is understandable if you need to pay it in parts, however you do need to pay me back in full before the end of the year, preferably as soon as possible. If this is the case, please include a plan for when I should expect the remaining amount to be paid before the end of the year. I would’ve loved nothing more than to have severed all ties with you as of Sunday, but I was not then nor am I now in the position to allow you to not repay such a large amount. I would also greatly appreciate it if you could mail these. There should not be any need for further discussion, but if need be do so by email only.
Thanks for finally taking care of this matter.
Best,
Tonya Collins
The rest takes place in email, as I had deleted all his contact information and had no interest in any other contact.
Hi T,
I got your letter. Do you use paypal?I will definitely pay you back in full for Mingus. That operation saved his life. Thank you.I can send $300 now and the rest in a couple of months, ok?Best,
B
Brian,
Just be thankful I had it. If it had been $2 more everyone would have been out of luck because $601.89 was all I had left in my savings account.
That sounds good though. Thanks. Understand this is not me being vindictive, so if you need to do $200 now and the rest over the next couple months that’s fine. I’m not trying to prove some kind of point. My paypal account is ***
What’s the ETA on the keys? The set you have is my only spare and frankly I have no plans to pay $25 for another set.
Thanks again.
Best,
Tonya
Wow. Down to the absolute wire. Again, THANK YOU! And Mingus thanks you from the bottom of his feline heart.I’m good for $300 now. Take it while its there 🙂 I totally understand and don’t think it vindictive at all. Sorry it’s been so damn long.I can mail your keys along with handling the initial paypal tomorrow. Should I send them to the house or job?Don’t know what to write here,B
Okay first, I am still very bothered with you, but your closing was hilarious and it did make me laugh.I like Mingus, I’m glad it didn’t end up the other way.You can mail them to either address, I’ll get them. Thanks.Best,Tonya
Brian,
I received the $300- thank you. I haven’t however received my keys yet. When did you mail them and to which address?
Best,
Tonya
On Sept 3, 2013, at 11:50 PM, Tonya wrote:
Brian,
It took me about seven minutes to delete your contact info, compose a letter and mail you your keys. It’s been over a month and I still haven’t received my keys. What’s up? Why not?
If you threw them away, could you please let me now instead of months or years down the line. Otherwise, could you please, please just send me my keys.
Thanks.
Best,
Tonya
Brian,
November is just a few days away, which means the end of the year will soon be here. With that said, what is the ETA on the remaining $300 you owe me? As I mentioned in the letter enclosed with your keys a few months ago, I would strongly prefer to have this matter resolved by the end of the year- I really don’t like to take any unnecessary baggage into new years.
You’re a smart and capable person and I would rather not have to consistently remind you of this situation, as I did with my keys to no avail. This is not new to you, so it makes no sense that I treat you like a child by repetitiously asking you to pay me back. It annoys me to ask and I’m sure it annoys you to hear it over and over again. I would like to not send some version of this email a second, third or fourth time until you respond. So, please let me know if there is an issue, but I would appreciate this being handled before the end of December. If I could finally get my keys back that would be great too.
Best,
Tonya
Wow, was just thinking of this today in fact. I’m still in a rough spot financially, but will certainly pay you back by the end of the year. I’ve got a good film project contract being signed next week or 2 that will be plenty money.
I sent the keys, T! Like 2 months ago. To whatever address from the letter you sent. In Manhattan I believe.
May I ask how you are doing?
B
On Oct 27, 2013, at 8:56 PM, Tonya wrote:
Brian,
That sounds great- Thank you for letting me know.
Also, thank you for letting me know about the keys. I will find out what happened to them once I’m back in that office.
I’m well.
Best,
Tonya
On Dec 23, 2013, at 7:32 AM, Brian wrote:
Hi T,
I hope this finds you well and happy. I’ll be sending the rest of your money in the next few days. Thanks for your patience and for saving Mingus’s life.
Love,
B
On Dec 23, 2013, at 8:51 AM, Tonya wrote:
Brian,
That’s great. Thank you letting me know.
Best,
Tonya
On Jan 12, 2014, at 10:46 PM, Tonya wrote:
Brian,
I received this email on the 23rd of December, however haven’t received the money. Today is more than a few days and has now dragged on into the new year, which I said repeatedly I didn’t want to happen.
Could you please let me know truthfully when I should expect the remaining $300? I would really like to just wrap this up.
Best,
Tonya
On Jan 13, 2014, at 11:41 AM, Brian wrote:
Sorry. Still just waiting to get paid from early December gigs. Within a week I’ll get it to you one way or another. Thanks
On Jan 13, 2014, at 11:42 AM, Brian wrote:
And happy new year 🙂
Emails ended here, as I was clearly annoyed that this sh*t was being pulled into my new year. Let me explain how each new year starts for me. During the month of January or the equivalent of 31 days I go on a pure fast of nothing but vegetable and fruit juices. While I work out, it helps to clear my mind and really to clean out all the sh*t I’ve consumed over the previous year. At this same time, I also clean out unnecessary bulls*t, like delete annoying people from my Facebook page, delete numbers out of my phone, and boot unproductive people of out of my circle of friends, that kind of thing. At the same time I invite new people in, eat healthier, try some new places, and as corny as it sounds try to center myself, figure out what I want for the year. To be honest (and still corny), this is a moment of sincere clarity, which for me meant thinking about how this moth*f*ck* hadn’t paid me my damn money. At one point I was at the gym and killed three miles in less than 25 minutes because I was running off how angry I was becoming. Day by day the fact that he STILL hadn’t paid me was eating me alive. Every time I needed to buy something and didn’t have enough money, it was because of his ass. When someone asked me to hang out and I couldn’t because I didn’t have the money, it was because of his stupid ass. Whenever my bills far exceeded my income, it was because of his broke ass. And finally when I was exactly $289 short for the month, all I could think about was how it was because of his lying, sorry ass! At a time when I started hemorrhaging money (thanks to a Texas wedding), the fact that he hadn’t paid me was becoming overwhelming. But what could I do? He was just going to continue to lie to me by saying “…one way or another” and frankly I didn’t need to hear a lie, I needed my damn money. Hell I work for a non-profit, $300 is a lot of money!!! I came close to emailing that he borrow it from his grandma or his girlfriend, whatever, just get me my money. It was like he was living in this world where he was struggling, but I had a money tree growing in my living room. As much as I wish that were true, it’s not and there have been plenty of times (this past week included) when I’ve survived on two $1.79 bags of white, black or red beans for a week or more- no breakfast, lunch and dinner. It’s hard sometimes in New York and in life, but it’s much harder when somebody owes you a great deal of money, but has no intent on paying it back.
Umm.I do owe you the $300, and I’ll pay. But certainly never came to your apt without you knowing.Don’t me a maniacBeI’ll pay youI teach in this neighborhood.(He calls- don’t answer)If any of my students same this I am in for serious life altering sh*t today when I get to school(Me) Crazy how this is suddenly important now.I’ll pay you the money.T! Do you realize the school where I teach is 3 blocks from home?And never mind the crazy timing of this which we’ll discuss if I ever see you againWhy didn’t you just call or email again?(He calls- didn’t answer)It’s not like I’m living some high lifeI’ll send the money today.(Me) FANTASTIC!! Thank you! 🙂Me and the woman whose face you plastered have broken up. Pleas leave her alone if you do anymore maniac sh*tI’m sorry to have hurt you. Never was my intention. I really hope I can still work at the school.(He calls- didn’t answer)The timing really is crazy. Just got some bread but was scared to PayPal from my phone. Last night. Swear on everything.Yo I never went in your house!!!!I sent those damn keys to manhattan ages ago(He calls- didn’t answer)C’mon you exploded my whole morning, give me 5 min on the phone?And we didn’t break up because of your destructive childish stunt today.I’ve worked so hard to cultivate something with this high school kids. You may have ruined that.That only hurts them. Shame on you for that. The rest is whatever.(I receive an alert from PayPal that $300 had been deposited in my account)(Me) I received notification that you sent the money. Thank you so much! Have a great Friday & a wonderful weekend! 🙂I did.Thanks for saving Mingus’s life. Change your locks.Don’t be a maniacDid those go up on other blocks or just mine?(He calls again at 9:16a- Didn’t answer as I’m actually at my desk working now)
BTW- Don’t try this at home unless you have good tape…